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Tuesday, March 22, 2005

The Three-Sentence Diet

Want to lose weight? It can be as simple as this:
  • Eat two boiled eggs as your breakfast
  • Learn to distinguish between your different forms of hunger
  • When you're hungry, eat to satisfy your hunger
That's it. If you follow it, you'll lose weight over time unless you've got serious nutritional deficiencies.

Let's detail it a little, so it will make sense to you and you'll remember it.

Eat two boiled eggs as your breakfast

Eating in the morning will start your systems, getting your body ready to feel hungry at the right times. Eggs are a source of protein (70 kcal/egg, approx) and fat (40kcal/egg, approx). Having protein available will help your body move towards fat burning mode, and starting this way will move your apetite in the right direction.

Learn to distinguish between your different forms of hunger

There are four (major) feelings that tend to be mixed up in the feeling "hunger". These are thirst, hunger for protein, hunger for carbohydrates, and hunger for micronutrients (which, for instance, can create cravings for peanuts or grapefruit juice or similar). When you listen closely to your body, these things feel different. How will you learn to listen? Easy. You'll just eat to satisfy the other hungers, and then you'll feel how the hunger that is left feels. This hunger will re-appear after a short while - for me, 15 to 20 minutes. It's not quite as easy to do the micronutrient part, as that's really a compound of its own - you'll notice this one as "The part that is not covered by thirst, protein hunger, and carbohydrate hunger."

So, it'll all go like this: You'll feel hungry, and then you'll drink lots of water and eat 3-4 eggs, and then you'll wait for 20 minutes. If you do not feel hungry again - well, the hunger was either for water or for protein. If you do feel hungry again, that's most likely carbohydrate hunger. Test by eating a couple of slices of plain buttered bread, and seeing if your hunger is still sated after half an hour.

Another time, you just drink water and see what difference that makes. When you do this, you'll easily learn to distinguish the "thirsty" feeling fully. Most of us think we know it, and find it a surprise to learn that it was mixed up.

The next day, you experiment with checking how it feels to satisfy just carbohydrate hunger and thirst. Drink enough water and eat buttered bread (again), and you should have fairly isolated protein hunger after a while. Notice that feeling. Test by satisfying it.

When you're hungry, eat to satisfy your hunger

Your body easily goes into "starvation mode". When it's in starvation mode, it tries to conserve calories, to avoid you starving to death. It's a really good intention - trust me, I'm speaking from experience when I say starving to death sucks. Fortunately, you're in the situation that you are unlikely to have to re-live my experience. So your body's effort is in vain. In fact, it's negative: Your body is getting rid of excess lean mass (muscles, inner organs) to avoid using so many calories, it's lowering the body temperature (making you less resistant to disease) and it's keeping fat to make sure you'll have calories available during the times of little food availability you're getting into.

The body does these adaptions fairly quickly. If you are hungry and do not eat, the body reasons, it's because there is no food available. Then, the body thinks, it's probably also a good idea to make you eat a lot when food becomes available, and store as much as possible for later use.

All of these things go together, so when you start eating when you're hungry, and you start noticing how different types of hunger feel, and you start eating towards satisfying that particular hunger, you'll lose weight. And you'll feel a lot better to boot.

Of course, to be able to do the above, you'll also have to read food labels for a while, noticing how much of each kind of food contains of each nutritient. This is easy; when you go down to the store tonight, you'll already be curious about these ideas and you'll start looking at the labels, noticing how the balance between carbohydrates, protein, and fat is for each food. It'll just be a fun game, some fun new trivias you'll learn easily.

Monday, March 21, 2005

(outlink) Seducer Within

I just found a free seduction book called Seducer Within. I haven't read it; the index looked OK, though...

(outlink) Letting emotions flow

Over on FastSeduction.com, Phenix has a very good post about noticing and accepting your feelings, titled Emotions Management. It is very much in line with my own view of seeing emotions as resources, and better formulated and more precise than I've made that side of the subject. Go read and practice.

Girls, nice guys and "bad boys"

Heartless Bitches International - Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS and
GalakTek Entertainment: The Deacon Effect - both worth a read. The latter is a "nice guy" that actually experiments with being a complete dick.

Does coffee make girls receptive?

The Brain in Love and Lust is a great article on body/brain chemistry, love and lust. In passing, it mentions that "DARPP-32" is the protein that makes girls receptive. Guess where the buzz from coffee comes from?

Of course, it may be the other way around - the caffeine may spend the DARPP-32.

Does anybody have any experiences either way?

Increasing Libido

Low libido is basically a hormonal/neurotransmitter deficiency. It sucks, because low libido not only remove sexual drive - it also cuts down all other forms of drive.

To get better
  • Cut down on mastrubation to once or twice a week (this avoids the movement of testosterone to DHT, avoids overload on the dopamine/acetylcholine/serotonin system, etc)
  • Start eating bananas (as a source of zinc)
  • Make sure you have enough saturated fat and low enough polyunsaturated fat in your diet (saturated fat is a precursor for many hormones and polyunsaturated fat mess up the biochemistry in this area)
  • Exercise! The important part here full-body strength workouts. In a weight-lifiting regime, this means you'd run squats and deadlifts as the core of your program.

  • Self-stimulate as often as possible *but not to orgasm*. This increase testosterone production.
  • On the neurotransmitter level, "libido" is also driven by dopamine and acetylcholine. You can add precursors for these to your diet - for instance, Acetyl-L-Carnitine and/or L-Tyrosine. The latter is likely to be a problem if you lack or is low on meat in your diet.

Wednesday, March 16, 2005

Reading Faster

I'll just have to admit it: I stole from Brian again.

Here's an automated system for reading faster. It takes 7 minutes to run. (From InfMind).

My speed went from 507 words per minute to to 671 words per minute after only running this exercise once. The downside: I've been able measure how long I've been reading easily (100 pages to an hour, pretty exactly.) Now I have to up my mental arithmetic to keep up :-/

(outlink) Master's Apprentices: Your Life, Your Temple

Over on Master's Apprentices, Midnight has post with a brilliant metaphor up: Master's Apprentices: Your Life, Your Temple.

I disagree with disregard for "outer game" (techniques). I agree with the importance of inner game, and highly recommend reading the post and using the metaphor.

(outlink) Good thoughts / Find resource states

Most NLPers always talks about "Resource states" and how you should play with them, anchor them, supercharge them, mix them, and build new ones. How do you find the old ones, though?

Over on The Dreama zone, dreama posted a list of reminders for good thoughs. That should help you find at least some resources.

Please comment and add more things that make you think good thoughts!

Being yourself and being nice

Many people advocate "being yourself rather than playing games". And they often talk of being "nice".

As I see it, the goal should be to be the yourself you would be with no fear and in a social position of plenty. This may come out as some sort of 'games' *while learning*. The end result should always be to be more YOU.

As for acting nice: Think carefully - do you appreciate a friend that makes him or herself into a servant for you, or do you appreciate one that sets his or her limits and tell you when you behave inappropriately, helping you grow by providing a kind but firm frame to support you?

I know that some of my close friends, at least, specifically appreciate being with me because I call them on any bullshit. I do this in a matter-of-fact way, setting it up so they can use it. For instance, I'm perfectly content with having an guest occasionaly guest just lounge in the living room while I cook. However, if it is somebody that visit several times weekly over a period, I expect them ask if I need help. If they repeatedly don't - I'll call them on it, even if I don't need help. If they do something to make me angry - and that includes 'unfair angry' - I'll calmly tell them so we can resolve the situation, rather than keep it in. And so on.

I prefer that behaviour towards myself, so I give it to others. It's OK to be kind, take care of things, help people out like a servant *sometimes* - but on average, it should even out, and with new people, there is no 'built up slack' available."

Tuesday, March 15, 2005

(outlink) Systematic Desensitization -- Self-administered

While trying to describe how to learn to do approaches to somebody, I came across this article: Systematic Desensitization -- Self-administered

That's much better organized than the traditional "repeated desensitization" techniques the seduction community normally use, basically helping you find what edges of your "comfort zone" to handle when.

(outlink) Remote Hypnosis - More free MP3s

Nice set of free MP3s for "the standard hypnosis topics" over at Remote Hypnosis. These uses subliminals for some of the post-hypnotic commands, and a quite long induction phase. This works well for me, at least.

Well worth a visit or five.

Monday, March 14, 2005

Hypnotic Spiral!

I just found a page with a hypnotic spiral - and I've been thinking I should test these for a long time.

There's a number of effect you can do with a hypnotic spiral - the page describes one of them.

Check it out!

Saturday, March 12, 2005

(outlink) Clitical Sex Guides

Uhm - was I supposed to write about seduction? Sorry, I kind of forgot.

A significant part of being a good seducer is being able to keep the girls (or men, though that's not my personal cup of tea) you get. And a significant part of keeping somebody is (or at least can be) making the bed time fun. And a significant part of that again is knowledge and technique.

And for that, I couldn't recommend Clitical more. Well, a little more, because I found it impossible to get from the front page to the places where much of the cool stuff was. So I'll point you at their articles directly and recommend "Familiarizing Yourself With The Female Form" (don't know how to find the g-spot? This will tell you.) and "How To: A Guide to Cunnilingus" (don\t know the "ABC trick"? Time to read...)

While the site is meant for women, they also have a section for guys.

Sexological Bodywork

I think I should start titulating myself as a Sexological Bodyworker, instead of just being a hobby therapist.

&lq;Hi, you look like you're stressed out and not quite yourself. To quote Dr Willhelm Reich in "Genitality in the Theory and Therapy of Neurosis", "The who are psychically ill need but one thing - complete and repeated genital gratification".&rq;

There is also some more on "Orgone Therapy" available. Sounds a bit like Rosen Therapy to me, except that these call themselves "Rosen Therapists" which is nowhere as cool as "sexological bodyworker".

Beliefs and the physical structures of the mind

The following is something I posted to mindlist. It is of interest for those that try to understand the nature of the mind.

I'll try to describe what actually happens here, connecting from the physical particles (atoms/molecules) up to beliefs, using NLP terms as appropriate. I use a bunch of terminology from medical science; I *think* the terms should be understable (enough) from context that this is fully understandable. Please ask if there is something any of you do not understand (after reading through all of it.)

What drives our behaviour is little physical particles moving around. Above that, it is chemical reactions in the body. Above that, it is pattern recognition in the neural network going all through the body (but especially the brain) triggering chemical reactions in the body (which again influence the network.)

These pattern recognizers are, depending a bit on how they are situatated, usually known as either "filters" or "resource states" or "anchors" in NLP (simplifying slightly with regards to resource states). There are a bunch more structures also represented here; I'll ignore them for now.

"Beliefs" is a higher level feedback mechanism towards the filtering system, changing the likelihood of a combination of pattern recognitions being allowed to go to permanent storage as a *new* pattern recognizer.

The set of pattern recognizers in use is *continually* being updated, and can be updated both from internal and external stimulus. So a belief change can, indeed, change behaviour without having "been through more experiences" externally.

Still, the direct driver of behaviour is the connection of pattern recognizers to hormonal and neurotransmitter release points ("anchors", though many of them come with the body from birth), the connection of pattern recognizers to other pattern recognizers throughout the body (and EVERY neuron is a pattern recognizer), the connection of inputs to some of the neurons, and the connection of outputs ("muscles") to some of the neurons.

Endocrine hormones (adrenaline, noradrenaline, corisol, oxytocin, etc, etc, etc) change cell responses in the body including (for some of them) *stimulating every nerve cell in the body by some amount*, thus changing the input filters and output responses (and a bunch of other stuff).

Neurotransmitter levels can do similar things in local areas, and sometimes globally.

Again: These things drive behaviour, ultimately by moving little particles around. The beliefs drive *parts* of how these things are built, *and only parts*.

I'll round off with a few examples that might help understanding some of the above more easily easily:

Let's say you want to gain individual muscle control over your ring finger.

Here, a belief that you haven't got it will likely be correct (most people have mixed up control with other fingers). Using for instance hypnosis to induce the belief that you have control over that finger will NOT give you immediate control over that finger. The problem here is that the pattern recognizers for *output* to the fingers are mixed together, and probably also the *input* from the fingers are somewhat mixed together.

However, a belief that you can move the fingers (or will be able to learn it very very rapidly) will make it easier to rapidly learn, and will give you higher apparent skill very quickly, because the belief part of the brain will be picking out the recognitions that match the prediction that you can control that finger, and give them higher weight.

Let's say you believe that belief drives behaviour. Then your filters will be tuned to notice that behaviour on a high level in many areas match belief. It will disregard the cases where you have to train other things that belief, as these do not "fit".

As an example of a non-belief-driven behaviour: If somebody moves something towards your face rapidly, you will (naturally) flinch. Thi sis not a "belief based" reaction - it is a reaction that is hardwired into us from we're born, by a direction connection that goes outside "beliefs". It is possible to *override* this reaction, either by expecting it and doing a conscious override, or (probably) by re-training the pattern recognizer so it does not operate. However, the behaviour here is initially OUTSIDE beliefs - we react due to the direct connection, and we rationalize "something was about to hit me" as a belief *afterwards*.

Again, feel free to ask about any of this - including other abstractions than "belief". Abstractions add to a base of knowledge, it does not take away - but viewing only the abstractions take away a great deal.

Friday, March 11, 2005


Pheronomes are the "smells" (sometimes possible to smell directly, sometimes not directly noticable) that people let out to affect other people. Effects include making other people aggressive, calm, attracted, flirty, etc.

The topic of pheronomes just came up on the seduction IRC channel. People (even people that where sceptical to start with) has had positive experiences with external application of them. As part of this, a couple of guys shared URLs:

Mike123 came up with The Pheronome Library andThe Love-Scent Forums, and jplr came with the supplier Pherone.

Seems worthwhile to check out, though no replacement for knowing how to be social - just an extra factor you can stack. I'll find some research on ways to increase release of pheronomes later - I would be surprised if it wasn't possible to increase release with proper nutrition ;-)

(outlink) Memory Key

For just about everything (including seduction), we'd all benefit from better use of our memories. The Memory Key site has some of the best founded information on this I have seen on this topic. It also ask the right critical questions (like "Is it really worth the effort of learning a list memorization technique to not have to write down your shopping list?"). Definately worth a visit. I find their Memory Guide the best place to start.

(outlink) The Fair Face

Ever wondered what happens in the brain when somebody are or are not attracted to the looks of somebody else? The lowdown on Fair Faces is available, going through each brain area and how it reacts - including the parts that notice eye contact and smiles. A fun read, at least for me :-)

Thursday, March 10, 2005

Identity Exercise #4

As always: Do these identity exercises in order.

Today's exercise: A simple essay question. "How do others percieve me?" Write an essay/series of poinds based on how you believe others percieve you. Spend at least 15 minutes.

Afterwards, ask your friends to give feedback on how well your description match their reality. It'll probably give interesting adjustments.

Thursday, March 03, 2005

(outlink) Lolito's Grives - Symbols of Chinese(Japanese) Buddhism

Symbols of Chinese(Japanese) Buddhism

Sexual symbolism - looks interesting. Wish I had time to read it right now, but I have girls to meet, and miles to go before I sleep...

(outlink) Gunslinger's Walk,

Dimitri of Rapid Social Impact just posted about The Gunslinger's Walk - how to walk like an alpha, walking through crowds, etc. Worth a read.

Identity: Exercise #3

Previous exercises has focus on building change potential. Today's exercise is taken from Razorjack, and is focused on improving self-image. (Of course, I'll exploit that too for change potential later :-)

Answer the following question: "Why would any girl want me?"

When I answered this, I used a point list, and got about 50 different points. If you brainstorm, you will find there is a lot of good stuff about yourself.